No matter how hard you try, you cannot save people.

You might have their best interests at heart, but trying to save people never works out.

Instead of trying to fix or save someone, draw a strong boundary line, avoid codependency and enmeshment, and spend the energy on taking care of yourself.

That’s the sneaky thing about growing up in a dysfunctional family: You saw what didn’t work in your family and often you’re drawn to people who you think you can fix or save.

It’s a trap.

I don’t know how else to say it, but going down that path is dangerous.

It’s a lot easier to look at someone else’s problem and know how to fix them than to take care of our own issues. We might feel loved, superior, wanted, and needed by trying to “help” someone else, but the truth is that we’re not taking the time to care of our own business.

We cannot live someone else’s life.

We can only take care of ourselves.

The sooner that we let go of trying to control others, the better.

No matter how altruistic it might seem, it’s not our job to save someone.

If you learn this lesson and take it to heart, your life will be filled with a lot less pain.

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