The more we blame others in our life, the longer we’ll suffer in our lives. We cannot go back and change the past. We can blame our parents or those who abused us, but that isn’t going to solve the problem either.

It’s a lot easier to focus on blaming others. We could full well within our rights to be angry about our upbringing, how we were treated, and the trauma that we lived through.

But at some point in our lives, we will need to overcome the past.

When we do, we will switch from being a victim to a survivor. When we change our view of who we are, a new path becomes available to us. But if we see ourselves as only in the light of a victim and focus on blaming others, then we’re holding back from starting the journey of recovery.

Our path forward is in learning a new way of living. We do not have to be held prisoner by how we were raised. We do not have to repeat the unhealthy behaviors that we learned in an alcoholic or dysfunctional family.

The choice is always up to us.

What will you do today? Will you look at your life and see where you’re blaming others and focus on what you can do to better your life?

It feels good to blame someone else and to get that righteous anger pull you forward.

But in the long run, you need to find another way forward. Blame only works for so long.

And then what?