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There's a part in Paulo Coelho's The Alchemist that sticks with me. In it, the main character is about to achieve his heart's desire and he fails right before he achieves his goal because he's afraid. This is a common occurrence that I've heard many friends express to me in trust. What is the cause for this self-sabotage and how can you overcome it?
At 17, I had my heart broken by being dumped by my first girlfriend. I didn’t know what I had done wrong, and having grown up in a twice-divorced family, I had no concept of what made a healthy and lasting relationship. I only knew that I was hurt and angry. One morning before school, I stared at myself in the mirror and wondered: Would I grow up to be like my father?
I grew up in a dysfunctional family with an abusive father who struggled with substance abuse. As a kid, I survived two divorces, and grew up in three different homes—all of which were dysfunctional. I struggled for a long time in not understanding why I was different than other people. When I discovered the secret to overcome my dysfunctional family upbringing, I almost ignored it because the path was so contrary to what I thought I needed to survive.
