I grew up knowing that if I wanted something done, then I needed to do it myself. I learned to be scrappy, creative, and to work hard. But the flip-side of my “can do” attitude was to take on more than I was responsible and to trust only on myself.
If you also grew up in an alcoholic/dysfunctional family, do you ask for help or do you prefer to do the work on your own?
I know that I’ve used excuses such as:
“It’ll be faster if I do things on my own.”
“I don’t want to bother anyone”
“They won’t do things right and I’ll have to do the work, anyway.”
If you look at the three excuses that I’ve given, it’s pretty clear that these excuses not only keep me from having more time on my own to spend on relaxation or self-care, but that I’m also trying to control events.
Be honest with yourself and take a step back. What could you use help with today?
Reach out, ask for help, and then let go.
You don’t need to do everything. Seriously, let go.
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