Day 260: What You Need to Do to Be Whole

What do you need to do to be whole?

What exercises, studies, meditations, or books do you need to read to achieve this elusive goal?

Nothing.

If anything, you need to unlearn what you learned as a child growing up in an alcoholic/dysfunctional family. If your parents were struggling with addiction in the household, they might not have had the skills to teach you about self-esteem and love. Or if they did the best they could, the struggles of fighting addiction were not easy to overcome.

As a kid, I remember being afraid and uncertain of what would happen in my family. I could not escape that fear. I worried that my father would yellow, or that he might throw something and get angry, or that he would abandon us and we would not have enough money to survive.

Whatever we struggled with as kids, we learned how to cope with the dysfunction. We survived but didn’t thrive.

Now we unlearn what we experienced as kids, to be whole, we only need to peel away the distrust and uncertainty and believe that we truly whole.

I remember the story of the blind men and the elephant that my teachers taught me at school. Each blind man touched the elephant and felt a different part of the animal. They could not see the whole picture until they put the pieces together.

For us, what we need to realize is that we have always been whole. We don’t have to do any work to make ourselves whole. We only need to open our eyes, look into the mirror, and be. That’s it.

Although that might sound easy, putting belief into practice can be challenging. If you were put down by family members, you might be still believe such lies.

Today, look into the mirror, smile, and simply say “I am whole.”

It will take practice, but each day it will become easier to say until you really believe it.

Start today and be free.


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