The work that you are set out to do will not bring you awards, accolades, and often will go unnoticed or misunderstood by those around you. If you are looking for praise for the work you have set out to do in overcoming an alcoholic or dysfunctional family upbringing, you’re not going to get any.
Work on the self is the type of work that’s for you. I’ve been reading Revolution from Within: A Book of Self-Esteem by Gloria Steinem and in the beginning of the book she talks about the direct effects shown in decreases in crime and teen pregnancy when self-esteem programs were introduced in various counties throughout California. Unfortunately, the programs ended without being re-introduced because of lack of support by legislators (and resistance from Christian groups).
When we spend time and energy on building up our self-love and learn skills on how not to repeat the dysfunctional behaviors that we learned growing up, we’re creating new opportunities and paths for ourselves.
It doesn’t matter if you are recognized for the work you do. It doesn’t matter if your family or loved ones congratulate you on your self-discovery journey.
What matters is that you are there for yourself. You fix you. I cannot say this any more clearly: The work that you do in resolving trauma from your past and on learning health behavior in dealing with stress and anxiety is the most important work that you will embark on in your lifetime.
Invest in yourself because you are worth it.
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