The ninth step of Adult Children of Alcoholics is: “Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.”
Day 193: Taking Stock When You Hurt Someone's Feelings
We all make mistakes. And if we have any relationships, we will at some point hurt someone else’s feelings. If you go back and remember how problems were resolved in your alcoholic or dysfunctional family, you might see patterns arise. Instead of admitting wrong, someone in the family may have become defensive, and then went on the offense. Fights, yelling, and unresolved conflicts are common in dysfunctional families.