When you are working through the problems you’ve had in growing up in an alcoholic/dysfunctional home, there are times when everything can feel overwhelming. Add on top of that the challenges of our day-to-day life and you might lose hope.
Sickness and financial problems can add to your worry and doubt.
As I right this, I’m out of work having been laid off, cases of the coronavirus are spiking in many states across America, and the world feels a bit upside down these days.
What can we do?
We cannot just think away our problems. Not only is it not going to solve our problems, but we need tools that will help us through each day.
There will be times when you lose hope. You might put all your effort and energy into change, but still have problems. I hear you and I do understand.
What am I doing to help solve my problems?
I’m working hard on building a daily schedule for me that will help me solve my problems. I’m putting in the work each day that will help me create a lifeline for me to get me through the difficult time.
But do you know what the hardest struggle for me is? It’s my own negative thoughts within my head.
The voice that says things such as “You’re not good. You’re going to fail. All is lost. You should just give up.”
The negativity around and within you can be hard to deal with and overcome.
I understand.
My greatest help right now has been on daily affirmations, exercise (to help with endorphins), and talking with friends and family with how I feel.
When your life is filled with problems, it might seem that all is dark.
Yesterday, I went outside, sat in a chair to read Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear, and focused on what I could do to help myself with creating healthier habits for myself. When I tired of reading, I put the book down, looked at the birds flying by, and stared up at the blue sky. It had been a long time since I had stopped and just listen to the world around me.
There’s a lot of rushing around and the news gets worse by the day.
What’s important right now is my focusing on myself. If you are losing hope, I hope you do the same.
Take time to get help and to work with those around you to find the good in the world around you. Hope will come back to you. We can’t change the world in a day or solve all our problems with a snap of our fingers. It’s okay to say that things are difficult and that we’re losing hope. As paradoxical as it might sound, admitting our struggles helps us move forward.
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