When you struggled as a child and tried to move forward with overcoming a difficult childhood, you might have doubted your own abilities. Now is the time to let go of the past, focus on yourself, and to trust yourself.
If you grew up in an alcoholic or dysfunctional family, trust is hard to come by.
I remember promises I was made that were broken and how I worried about whether I would have a place to live and if we’d have enough to eat.
And as a young adult, I carried with me the reactive behaviors of growing up in an alcoholic and dysfunctional family. I mistrusted that people would be there for me and had a great fear of abandonment. I feared that I would be unloved, left alone, and that I’d suffer great emotional pain.
Over the years, I realized that I needed to become my own parent and find solace in myself. No one was going to save me.
I need to define who I was, what I believed in, and how I was going to bring myself to a point in my life where I could find calm and peace.
Trust begins with yourself.
Each of us needs to learn how to trust our instincts and to self-parent ourselves.
The problem is that if we grew up in a dysfunctional family, then we might be carrying a heavy load on our shoulders.
Take time to review the 14 traits that Adult Children of Alcoholics lists on its website and be honest with yourself as you go through the list.
The change that you want is tied into your embracing your feelings and the problems that you struggle with. It’s important that we don’t sugar coat our struggles, but to face them and work to overcome them.
This is where trust comes in.
Trust in that you can overcome your problems and learn skills to deal with what holds you back.
Trust is critical because when you believe in yourself, the fear that holds you back will wash away, and you can begin to live a life of freedom.
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